Settling Dust

 There is an old saying that a person can have a better perspective of events “after the dust settles.” I think I am at that point right now. A lot has gone on in the last several years that has affected me and those around me as well. 

Of course, those who read this blog know it is the passing of Joyce to which I am referring. A few blogs back I wrote about the idea that even in darkness there is light. And upon reflection that has borne out in the events preceding Joyce’s passing and in days since. 

So many friends and family reached out to share that help was available if it was needed. And when help was needed they were there. There were so many words of encouragement that buoyed us up when we were down. The goodness that we both saw was the light at the end of a dark tunnel.

At the Service for Joyce she had visitors from all phases of her well lived life. It was a great tribute to the beautiful person she was. We often talk about “paying things forward.” I truly believe she paid forward by modeling gifts of friendliness, caring, creativity and talent that she shared with all those around her.

I have to admit this is a tough post to write. My heart is heavy and my tears sometimes fall like the raindrops one sees during our famous Minnesota “sun showers.” I will be remembering times of joy and boom, the “raindrops” fall for a short period of time. And then boom, the dry eyes return and the sparkle of the memory brightens the rest of the day.

The great thing about grieving is that if you allow it to happen, the heart that is heavy finds strength to heal and allows memories to be had without the interruption of a sun shower. Gladness and fond recollection comfort the sadness in the heart as one would cradle a melancholy child.

I have discovered that it is not realistic to expect me to just move on. There is a void. I am learning day by day how to fill that void. My new daily routine is a work in progress. My first task to which I have assigned myself was to find out when I should go to bed and when I should wake up. I am still working on that one. I think I will wait to assign myself something else until I figure that one out. 

Baby steps, Gary, baby steps.

Funeral Service Update

 Pastor Michael and I met to talk about the service that is going to be held for Joyce on July 19, 2022 at the Randall Presbyterian Church.

The service will start at 10 a.m. and will be finished around 11 a.m. After the service there will be refreshments downstairs sponsored by the deacons of the church.

The original plan was to have the urn taken to Camp Ripley after the service but that has been put on hold until a later date.

I hope this is helpful for those planning to attend. And for those who will not be  here, we know that you will be in spirit. We want you to know that we are eternally grateful for all of the prayers and support that you have given Joyce and the family during this time.